How women find our gyno? Insights from my wife

Are women bothered by our gyno? While every woman is different, I asked my wife a few candid questions to get her honest thoughts on the matter.

1. What was your first impression? Be brutally honest.
“The first time I saw my husband naked was on our wedding night, and it was also the first time I noticed his gyno. I call it ‘gyno’ now because of everything I’ve learned about it since then, but back then, I didn’t even think of it as something unusual. I hadn’t seen a lot of topless men before, so I didn’t have much to compare it to, and I didn’t think anything was ‘off.’ It was just him.”

My wife’s answer reminds me that sometimes we can be more aware of our perceived “flaws” than anyone else. Sure it is noticeable, but for my wife this is not the the most important thing for her. What is important is our personality 😎😎😎.

Looking at the different levels of gynecomastia taken from centreforsurgery.com, I most likely have a grade 2 gynecomastia. At grade 2, it is not so bad.

Gynecomastia grades
2. Did it ever bother you? Even a little?
"Honestly, no, it never really bothered me at first. It wasn’t something I focused on. But over time, I started to become more conscious of it — mainly because my husband would sometime bring it up. The more he talked about it, the more it made me think about it too. I feel like anything that bothers him will inevitably bother me as well.”

We have been together for 9 years. Sure this has been a source of insecurity on my end but it does not affect our relationship. (I do get a little ticklish when she touches my chest though 🥴🥴.) But basically, my wife is not bothered.

The only reason she is bothered, is if I am bothered by it. Not because of how it looks, but rather she is concerned about how it is affecting me.

3. Should I get the surgery done?
“If having the surgery will help boost his self-esteem and confidence, and if it’s safe with no major complications, then I would support it—of course, if the budget allows. But ultimately, I just want him to feel comfortable in his own skin.”

I don’t mind having the surgery. I am just not rushing into things. My gyno, has not really limited my life as mentioned in this blog article. It is also more of a mental thing for me. Am I not content with the body God has given me? Why do I want to have the surgery?

It is a decision I am still weighing on.

Final Thoughts:
To those who are wondering if it will be a hindrance to finding your wife, it won't be if you don't let it. My wife does not mind it at all.

However, how it would hinder us is how it affects our own confidence and our outlook in life. At the beach, just wear a shirt and enjoy it. Don’t let is prevent you from going to the beach. In the bed, (once married) explore it with your wife.

Physical appearance is important to me, that is why I go to the gym three times a week regularly. For me, a fit body is a sign of my discipline and work ethic. And my concern is that if I would look at the plainly at the goal of getting a better fit body, removing the gyno through surgery would give me the best result. It won’t really go away with any exercise. You can only hide it (checkout this blog article).

On a side note, If I were at grade 3 or grade 4, I may have gotten the surgery already and be done with it. Because it will be really noticeable, and may affect my masculinity.

Date published: 2024-10-19

How women find our gyno? Insights from my wife

Are women bothered by our gyno? While every woman is different, I asked my wife a few candid questions to get her honest thoughts on the matter.

1. What was your first impression? Be brutally honest.
“The first time I saw my husband naked was on our wedding night, and it was also the first time I noticed his gyno. I call it ‘gyno’ now because of everything I’ve learned about it since then, but back then, I didn’t even think of it as something unusual. I hadn’t seen a lot of topless men before, so I didn’t have much to compare it to, and I didn’t think anything was ‘off.’ It was just him.”

My wife’s answer reminds me that sometimes we can be more aware of our perceived “flaws” than anyone else. Sure it is noticeable, but for my wife this is not the the most important thing for her. What is important is our personality 😎😎😎.

Looking at the different levels of gynecomastia taken from centreforsurgery.com, I most likely have a grade 2 gynecomastia. At grade 2, it is not so bad.

Gynecomastia grades
2. Did it ever bother you? Even a little?
"Honestly, no, it never really bothered me at first. It wasn’t something I focused on. But over time, I started to become more conscious of it — mainly because my husband would sometime bring it up. The more he talked about it, the more it made me think about it too. I feel like anything that bothers him will inevitably bother me as well.”

We have been together for 9 years. Sure this has been a source of insecurity on my end but it does not affect our relationship. (I do get a little ticklish when she touches my chest though 🥴🥴.) But basically, my wife is not bothered.

The only reason she is bothered, is if I am bothered by it. Not because of how it looks, but rather she is concerned about how it is affecting me.

3. Should I get the surgery done?
“If having the surgery will help boost his self-esteem and confidence, and if it’s safe with no major complications, then I would support it—of course, if the budget allows. But ultimately, I just want him to feel comfortable in his own skin.”

I don’t mind having the surgery. I am just not rushing into things. My gyno, has not really limited my life as mentioned in this blog article. It is also more of a mental thing for me. Am I not content with the body God has given me? Why do I want to have the surgery?

It is a decision I am still weighing on.

Final Thoughts:
To those who are wondering if it will be a hindrance to finding your wife, it won't be if you don't let it. My wife does not mind it at all.

However, how it would hinder us is how it affects our own confidence and our outlook in life. At the beach, just wear a shirt and enjoy it. Don’t let is prevent you from going to the beach. In the bed, (once married) explore it with your wife.

Physical appearance is important to me, that is why I go to the gym three times a week regularly. For me, a fit body is a sign of my discipline and work ethic. And my concern is that if I would look at the plainly at the goal of getting a better fit body, removing the gyno through surgery would give me the best result. It won’t really go away with any exercise. You can only hide it (checkout this blog article).

On a side note, If I were at grade 3 or grade 4, I may have gotten the surgery already and be done with it. Because it will be really noticeable, and may affect my masculinity.

Date published: 2024-10-19